Sis, let’s get one thing straight right now…
……healing is not some cute little checklist you can knock out in a weekend with a face mask, a candle, and a journal. No shade to self-care Sundays (we stan), but healing? That’s a whole journey—messy, magical, exhausting, and empowering all at once.
Some days you’re glowing, meditating, drinking your water, and leveling up like the queen you are. Other days? You’re crying in the car, yelling at the microwave, and cussing out the universe like, “Why me, tho?!” And guess what? That’s still healing.
“Healing isn’t linear. It loops, spirals, and sometimes doubles back. That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.”
🌀 The Myth of the Glow-Up
Let’s talk about the toxic positivity that gets wrapped up in “healing culture.” Social media will have you thinking that healing looks like yoga on a rooftop, sage burning in the background, and a perfectly color-coded journal. But the truth? Healing often looks like unwashed dishes, ignored texts, and you laying in bed wondering how you got here again.
That doesn’t make you weak. That makes you real.
Sis, if healing was linear, we’d all be walking around like Beyoncé on opening night. But it’s not. It zig-zags. It loops back. It sucker punches you outta nowhere. And every tear, every cuss word, every deep breath in the bathroom mirror counts.
😤 Why You Gotta Let It Out
Let’s be honest: society tells women—especially Black and brown women—to “stay strong,” “be resilient,” “don’t be angry.” But holding in pain doesn’t make you powerful. It makes you emotionally constipated. And who wants that?
Some days, healing means breaking down. Some days, it means saying hell no when you used to say yes. Some days, it means crying into your pillow, then turning around and hyping yourself back up like, “Nah, sis, we not staying here.”
And some days, yes—you’re gonna cuss. You’re gonna cuss at the past, at your ex, at that friend who betrayed you, at your mama for not protecting you, even at yourself. That doesn’t make you petty—it makes you human.
🛠️ The Tools of Real Healing
So how do you keep going when the path is shaky? When you’re tired of pretending you’re okay?
Here’s what we know works—not because it’s cute, but because it’s real:
Celebrate the Baby Steps: Got outta bed? That’s healing. Set a boundary? That’s healing. Didn’t text your ex back? Big healing energy!
Radical Honesty: Tell the truth about what hurts. To yourself. To your journal. To your therapist. To your God.
Rest Without Guilt: Not every moment has to be productive. Some of your best healing will happen when you allow yourself to just be.
Community Over Isolation: Healing don’t mean you have to do it all alone. Call your girls. Text your cousin. Find your tribe. Let someone hold space for you.
Feel It to Heal It: That anger? That grief? That confusion? Feel it. Don’t suppress it. Give it a name. Give it a voice. Then let it go when you’re ready.
Sis…..
🔄 When You Feel Like You’re Back at Square One
Here’s the kicker: even when you think you’ve “done the work,” something will hit you that drags you back into that old wound. An anniversary. A song. A scent. A random memory.
Don’t let that moment make you feel like you’ve failed. You didn’t go back—you’re going deeper. Healing happens in layers, sis. What you’re feeling now is just the next level of you rising.
You’re not broken. You’re unfolding.
🔥 Own Your Healing—All of It
Sis, stop comparing your healing to someone else’s highlight reel. You don’t owe anybody perfection. You don’t have to be graceful about your growth. Healing is sacred. And it’s yours.
You can cry and still be strong. You can cuss and still be spiritual. You can fall apart and still be whole. This isn’t a contradiction—it’s a reminder that you’re real, layered, and beautifully complicated.
So the next time you find yourself spiraling, just say:
“Sis, I’m healing—even if today looks like tears and profanity.”
And that’s more than okay. That’s divine.
✨ Final Word: You Betta Heal
You don’t need permission to feel what you feel. But here it is anyway: You betta cry if you need to. You betta cuss if you have to. You betta HEAL—your way.
This journey ain’t about perfection. It’s about truth. And you, sis, are walking that truth in your own time, in your own way. So keep showing up. Keep doing the work. Keep loving yourself through the chaos.
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You’ve got this. And even when you don’t—Sis, You Betta. 💖
Sis, You Betta! 